Archive for September, 2013

Is there anything I can do about my mom and her boyfriend?

Saturday, September 7th, 2013

My dad passed away last September from lung cancer. I really thought she would step up and try her best to take care of my sisters and me on her own, even if it is difficult to be a single mother. However, she got herself a new boyfriend after only a couple of weeks. I told her it was too soon, but she told me dating him was the only way she could continue to pay my tuition for private school. He was also renovating our house with his own money. Some things were necessary (like the roof and siding), but others were not (landscaping, feng shui, etc.). I was really skeptical that he would spend so much money on my mom, considering how they had only just started dating. She seemed happy though, so I stopped worrying about her and just focused on school for a while.

She went to Vietnam for two months (June and July), saying she was going to get surgery because she got a papercut in her eye from a book, which sounded really sketchy because she doesn’t ever read. She always changed the subject whenever I inquired further, and I was too busy with school to really think about it. When I asked why she had to do it in Vietnam, she said it’s because she doesn’t have health insurance here in the U.S. When I asked why she had to stay there for so long, she said the process is much slower in Vietnam. She left us with some babysitter she just met, but I decided to stay home since I’m old enough (I’m 17). I slept over at a friend’s house for Fourth of July, and while I was there, my friend’s mom, who has always been a close family friend, asked me if I knew that my dad had bought life insurance, which she knew because my mom asked her to help her with some paperwork since my mom doesn’t know any English. This news hit me hard because I was under the impression that we didn’t have any money, so my mom lied to me. A couple weeks later when I was hanging out with my aunt and uncle for my birthday, my aunt told me that my mom was getting plastic surgery in Vietnam. My mom had called me saying she would stay in Vietnam for an extra week or two (she was originally going to stay for six weeks) because she got in a "car accident" in Vietnam, but knowing then that my mom was getting plastic surgery, I realized that was another lie and that she probably needed more time for her face to heal. When she got back, there was obviously no hiding it. She doesn’t look like my mom anymore. Tattooed eyebrows, eyes, nose, tattooed lipstick, chin, breast implants… She didn’t even bother to explain it to us, and she continues to be cheap with us, only spending money on herself and claiming they’re all gifts from her boyfriend. I was beginning to suspect that her boyfriend is only there so she can get away with spending all the life insurance money on herself. If it weren’t for my dad, she would send me to the terrible public school in my neighborhood instead. She doesn’t give a damn about my education. I can never talk to her about anything because she always either shuts herself up in her room or pretends she is deaf. If I bring up the topic in the car, she turns up the music really high to drown me out. My suspicion that I mentioned earlier was confirmed when I overheard my mom talking on the phone about how her boyfriend doesn’t actually have anything, about how he has multiple lovers, and how he’s encouraged her to abandon us but she wouldn’t. She changed the locks one day, and I thought her relationship with him was over, which would mean she was never dependent on him in the first place, but he started showing up again. I asked about the locks, and she said she changed them because my sister had difficulty unlocking them, but my sister said she never had any problems unlocking the doors. Another lie. I found an electric razor in her groceries, but she said he bought it, which didn’t explain why it was mixed in with her stuff and not in his possession. I also noticed he got plastic surgery as well, so I think he might be taking advantage of her since she said he doesn’t have any money.

In the car today, I asked my mom if my sister could go to my school because I want her to get a good education as well, but she insisted that we didn’t have any money. I pointed out that she had money for plastic surgery, but she turned the music volume up again as usual. When we got home, she told me to get out of the car, but I refused since she was always going places without telling us what she’s up to. She got out of the car and called her boyfriend. He came over and yelled at us, saying it’s her money and her life and that she can do whatever she wants. My mom just stood there and let him talk to us like that. She’s clearly chosen him over us. At this point, I am ready to just focus on school and move out as soon as I turn 18, but I’m worried about my sisters. I wish I could force him to leave somehow. I feel so powerless.

Gosh what money can do to ignore even their own kids. Your mom seems phycologically infected by her bf and spending away all the money. Very sad. But one day money will run out…she would be abandoned. The only thing she will have is kids.
What goes around comes around…she will get hers.
If you cant take the nonsense. Move away…
Its the best you can do for now…support yourself by parttime work. Else just ignore the things and live tillshe learns the lesson the hard way.
Another way get a lawyer and fight for your share and siblings share of the insurance money.
Take care and be strong.

Feng Shui for Your Home: Tips for “Unsticking” Your Career

Monday, September 2nd, 2013

Karen Atkins, http://www.restoremethod.com. Try these easy and fun tips for getting the energy flowing in your career and chart a path to success.

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Feng shui garden design

Monday, September 2nd, 2013

Feng shui garden design

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Clear Clutter with Lifestyle Feng Shui part 1

Monday, September 2nd, 2013

Join Laurie Bornstein, founder of Lifestyle Feng Shui as she simplifies and demystifies Feng Shui. Clutter impacts more than the spaces in which you live, clutter impacts the quality of your life. Learn how to identify it and begin to clear it in three easy steps. You can visit Laurie online at http://www.lifestylefengshui.com and http://www.eastcoastfengshuischool.com

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